A guilty person will tends to have more emotionally-charged dialogue with you. "Someone harboring a guilty conscience may be quick to jump to extreme anger when questioned," therapist Dana Koonce, MA, LMFT, tells Bustle. "Because they are perceiving you as a 'threat,' fight or flight is activated.
When someone is feeling guilty, one reaction is trying to ignore the situation and not take it seriously, so they don't have to face up to what they've done. If your boyfriend is belittling your feelings, he's trying to make the problem less serious, so he has less to be accountable for.
It's not uncommon for guys to feel guilty and go out of their way to do things for you when they are remorseful about hurting you. Did he dump you? If he did, you might find signs of dumper's remorse in his actions like drunk texting you or calling you on your birthday.
On the theory that an innocent man would loudly deny a serious charge, the rule holds that a suspect silent in the face of an accusation has tacitly admitted the crime. And such silence can later be introduced at his trial as an indicator of guilt.
As you've learned, being defensive is a result of feeling ashamed, hurt, guilty, attacked, etc. If a person is feeling this way, responding with further criticism is likely to end only in stonewalling or an argument.
If he is afraid of losing you, he will care about whom you interact with when it comes to men. He is not jealous because he doesn't feel anything for you. It can also be that he is also talking to other people.
But if a kindhearted man hurts a woman he loves — physically or emotionally — he feels similar levels of pain in his heart. The guilt and regret he feels translate into pain, and this makes it even more difficult to accept what he's done to his woman.
Findings from his in-depth analysis revealed that the silent treatment is 'tremendously' damaging to a relationship. It decreases relationship satisfaction for both partners, diminishes feelings of intimacy, and reduces the capacity to communicate in a way that's healthy and meaningful.
Guys need fulfilling relationships with other people too, just like women do. If you're too jealous or controlling or you're both just spending too much time together, it may start to affect his other relationships. If that happens, you may be the one who gets cut from the team, so to speak.
The participants admitted to cheating in their relationship and answered the question at the root of the mystery: Why did you do it? An analysis revealed eight key reasons: anger, self-esteem, lack of love, low commitment, need for variety, neglect, sexual desire, and situation or circumstance.
Your boyfriend could even recognize that you have been with another man. When you're having sex with someone, it's very easy to leave physical evidence behind, so to speak. Even if you clean up thoroughly, your boyfriend might catch subtle hints that you have been with someone else.
While we can all agree that cheating is wrong, this is independent of the fact that a man can still love the woman he is cheating on. In fact, it is highly un-likely that he loves the other woman (or man, no judgment) he is cheating with.